You had the man of your dreams in your life and probably making plans for the future, even if they were just your own plans, but now he's gone and you want to recapture the love of your ex boyfriend. What happened? Did you have a big fight? Did you pressurize him? Was he scared off by commitment issues? Did you cheat on him? The truth is that there is no end of possible reasons why the man of your dreams has dumped you.
What's important, if you want to get him back, is that you figure out exactly why he dumped you. This may not be easy to do unless the reason for your breakup is really obvious, like a huge fight and your certain about the cause of the fight. Other than that, a lot of the reasons can simply be symptoms and not the cause itself. Take for instance an affair, normally it's not the affair that causes the breakup, sure, it gets the blame, but there is usually a reason the affair happened and that's what really needs to be addressed.
He may just have got cold feet. Some men get scared off at the thought of any real commitment. If this is the case, then he probably suffers from low esteem and a certain amount of immaturity. How you handle this depends on his precise problems. It's quite possible that the love he has for you has overwhelmed him in some way. Talking about commitment can become scary for some people.
He may also be struggling to get things clear in his own mind and finding it more difficult with you around. Of course, he may just have decided that you're not the one for him. Because you're in love with your ex boyfriend doesn't mean that he will be in love with you and you may have to come to terms with that.
You need to let him go, give him time to find out that he misses you. You find that out by pressurizing him, but by giving him the space to figure out his feelings on his own. Use this time apart to work on yourself, do all the things you wanted to when you were together, take up a new pastime, have a makeover, but above all, enjoy yourself. Don't put your life on hold because the man of your dreams has dumped you, show him exactly what he's missing by being upbeat, happy and confident. If he's going to come back then being attractive to others will bring him back quicker than anything else.
Don't go out of your way to be available to him either. He dumped you, it's only right that he will have to work to get you back. This way, if he does come back, he'll be less likely to try breaking up with you again. That doesn't mean that you should punish him in any way, you don't want to push him away. If you want to get your ex boyfriend back you'll do it faster if you remain happy and pleasant in any communication you have with him, just don't be too quick to take him back.
Once he starts missing you he'll want everything to get back the way it was immediately. You may very well want this too, but if you want to avoid being dumped in the future, take your time. Let him go through the whole courting ritual again, it'll do him good and it'll do you even more good.
Don't let everything that you have put into your relationship go down the drain just because the man of your dreams dumped you, be patient, be good to yourself in the meantime and you may just meet a better man of your dreams in the process.
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