Panic is the most common state to be in just after a breakup, and when your boyfriend has just broken up with you, you'll probably feel hurt, maybe angry and perhaps more than just a little confused.
So what do you do, or even better, what can you do?
Well, most of it really depends a lot on whether you want your ex boyfriend back or not. If you don't want him in your life, allow yourself to grieve for the relationship that just ended and then look forward to having fun being single again. Don't waste time trying to get revenge on this man as you will only end up hurting yourself.
But if you really want to get your ex boyfriend back in your life and perhaps feel your behavior has contributed to the breakup, there are a couple of things you can do (and lots more here).
Your first one is to let him know how you feel. Write him a letter, apologizing for any bad behavior and reminding him of the good times you shared together. Don't be afraid to tell him how much he means to you and how much you miss him.
Assuming you get a positive response to your letter, agree to meet him but do so in a public place. This will help prevent your discussions turning into a huge argument. You will need to be prepared to tell your man how you feel. Don't hide your feelings. If you are angry tell him why but try not to turn the meeting into a blame fest.
This will not help you in convincing him that you are good together. Keep the conversation to facts and also use the word I and not you. For example you should say "I feel let down" rather than "you let me down". This is a lot less confrontational and less likely to cause offense or lead to another argument.
Allow him to criticize you as well. It is best if this is done in a constructive way. We all have our faults and some of your less attractive character traits may be, in part, to blame for why he broke up with you.
It is very important that you listen to what he says. Don't assume you know what he is trying to say. Encourage him to say what is on his mind as this is the opportunity for you both to work through any issues in your relationship and come out of this a stronger couple. He may have made the decision to break up, but your behavior probably contributed to his decision.
Do not play games and don't feel that you have to hold something back in order to make him come back to you. This will only cause feelings of resentment which may lead to you splitting up again. Don't look on a breakup as a negative. All couples go through good and bad patches. It is a normal feature of adult relationships.
Follow these tips and one day as a happy couple, you may actually be thankful that for the day you found out that your ex has just broken up with you.
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